Note to self: Make a concerted effort to include the words, vamoose & rubenesque, into weekly vocabulary usage.
communication
Les réseaux sociaux prennent-ils mieux en compte l’accessibilité numérique en 2025 ? 🤔
Notre collègue @coryse fait le point sur l’accessibilité de Mastodon, Bluesky, Threads, Instagram et LinkedIn à l’occasion du #GAAD, la Journée mondiale de sensibilisation à l’accessibilité (Global Accessibility Awareness Day) :
#a11y #handicap #accessibilité #numérique #RéseauxSociaux #communication #GAAD2025
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This has been an emotional past few days, so strap in for some trauma unpacking in—
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My ex once told me "people only pay attention to you because you're fuckable". A sentence constructed to stab at a very vulnerable part of my insecurities. It was the sentence that marked the end of our marriage for me.
Growing up, I never really found myself attractive, but it was obvious others did. In highschool—unbeknownst to me—a group of yearbook folx arranged to put me in the yearbook as "most desirable student". In my 20s, I had a drinking problem—largely aided by the fact that when I went to a bar, drinks often just showed up at my table.
As a neglected latchkey kid I liked the attention, I often mistook it for love, and I ended up fucking a lot of people.
Along the way, I learned that people can get pretty mean and/or hurt when you decline sex, and, even when they didn't, there was still the fear that declining sex (or not being "good enough" at it) would lead to their love or affection being withdrawn.
This is all backstory to catch you up to this weekend.
I have a partner; I'll call them "B". B and I have been going out for some months now, and we're quite close. We have an active, and amazing, sex life. In fact, sex is one of our main bonding activities.
I'd never declined sex with them...until this Saturday morning. You see, B had slept over on Friday, and by the time we'd finished watching Lower Decks with my nesting partner, T, we were ready to crash for the night. The following morning, I woke up next to B. Cuddling ensued, things escalated, I went to use the restroom before sex, and in that moment a little voice in my head whispered "...because you're fuckable".
I *wanted* to have sex with B. I *was* turned on—right up until that intrusive thought. But now it was going to eat at me. I knew it wasn't true, but the seed had been planted, and I couldn't disprove it without turning B down, so...I did...and it was hard...and B was visibly disappointed.
We talked as we laid there in bed. I explained as best I could at the time that this wasn't rejection, that it wasn't them, it was me (god that sounds cliché, but it was true), and that I still loved them. We cried and held each other for some time afterwards.
A couple hours later, B's spouse, "D", and their spouse's partner, "V", came over for lunch and movies. B and I were both low energy—still teary-eyed—and B was withdrawn. B sat with D and I, on the verge of tears as we tried to console them, until they left later that evening.
After everyone left, I tried to put on my "everything's fine" face and went out to a show that a friend had invited me to. My spoons were spent and I was feeling vulnerable. Old bar patterns popped back up and, as drinks were offered to me, I accepted. I'm glad no one took advantage of the situation, because I wasn't making good choices. My lovely partner, T, eventually picked me up and got me home safely.
Fast-forward through the next day's hangover, and D texts me to let me know B is spiraling, but doesn't want to reach out for fear of being a burden to me. They must have convinced B to reach out, because I got a text a moment later while I was in the middle of typing out an invitation for B to come over to talk.
B shows up about an hour and a half later. We hug for a long time, then curl up on the couch together to talk. B says they see sex as something that brings us closer and that they were disappointed I had declined it, but mostly they felt like they hadn't been supportive enough in the moment.
So there we were—B afraid they'd let me down, me afraid I'd let B down. B feeling rejected, me thinking B was working up to the "breakup talk"—both expecting love to be withheld; both being wrong.
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Update: I ended up sending this to B to make sure they thought everything was accurately represented and that they were okay with me posting it.
B responded affirmatively and added that on Saturday they were stuck in their own head—feeling guilty for wanting sex, and worrying that I had felt pressured.
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From B: I wish that morning that I had just been able to say, "I'm sorry your brain is being mean to you and the things it's telling you are not true. I do like having sex with you and connecting with you in that way *and* I value you as a whole person. If not having sex with you right now is what you need from me in this moment, that's ok. I still love you. I still want to spend time with you. I'm not going anywhere." And then spent the afternoon just cuddling you.
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I feel like starting any relationship talk with a "I love you and I'm not going anywhere" disclaimer (so long as it's true) would go a long ways towards quieting those insecure, and frankly kinda dickish, inner voices we all have.
As I think on this more, I might add follow-up posts.
Hey Fediverse,
I am looking for research, policy, or communications roles, full time or part-time. I have a PhD in sociology. Profile highlights:
• Project management experience in both research & events.
• Research experience: research design, data collection, analysis (qualitative - NVivo, quantitative -SPSS), synthesis, & communication.
• Communications experience: Social Media, Website Support, Graphic Design, Video Editing.
Thanks! #FediHired #FediHire #FediJobs #Research #Communication
Okay, seems like the in thing to do, so here’s my #introduction
#Media #experience:
#Photography
#Audio #Editing
#Video #Edit
#HTML
#DesktopPublishing
#Layout
#PrePress
#Journalism
#Communication worker
#PrintShop manager
#PageDNA
My #interests
#StarTrek
#StarWars
#Disney
#RoadTrip
#Scenic & #Landscape & #Vanity #LicensePlate #Photography
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🚀 Our 18th annual game design challenge has launched!
💬 Topic: #Communication
📆 Submit ideas by March 24th
⭐ $10,000 in cash prizes
⭐ Critiques for all Finalists
🎮 Please boost to reach #gamedevs, #designers, #artists, #writers, #composers, and more.
🧡 Presented by an award-winning #nonprofit program producing videogames for #violence #prevention since 2008.
Details, rules, communication resources at the contest website.
#games #gamedev #indiedev #gamedesign #gamejam #nonprofit #education #edtech @gamedev
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Let's create games that encourage kids to become better #communicators:
☮️ to prevent violence
🤥 to overcome rumors
👥 to build strong personal relationships
🌇 to support healthier communities
🎮 We believe this can be done with games, do you?
🧡 Help us reach the designers & devs who could envision & build such games
⭐ We want to reward them but first must reach them
#gamedev #games #communication #scholars #education #gamedesign #nonprofit #prevention #publichealth
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Hey fedi friends, I'm curious if there's a good alternative to Bridgefy. Specifically, one that is a bit or a lot more secure, and one that many people either have on their phones, or could easily have on their phones. It would probably work over wifi or Bluetooth in the absence of any infrastructure.
It's so nice to have communication when the cell tower goes down, ya know?
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Hi world! A quick #Introduction #presentación so that my friends (old, new, and future ones) can find me. I'm mainly working on:
#communication
#comunicación
#marketing #socialmedia
#rrss #digitalmarketing
#dircom #CCO
#sustainability #sostenibilidad #rsc
Personal interests also talking about #planet #globalization #technology #strategy
Sharing #photography from my city, guess it! 
I’ve been here a while, but I’m just now posting an #Introduction. Why? I’ve been a bit shy to, and as an observer by nature, I wanted to understand what this space can offer and what I can offer in return.
I believe in kindness, curiosity, and the types of communication that can arise when people hold those two values close.
I’m looking to connect with people who want to have these types of conversations and prefer going below the surface, sharing personal experience, and practicing empathy.
I also appreciate those discussions, ideas, and facts in my feed that scratch my intellectual itch as well as the beautiful moments that people share. I moderately boost.
I’m interested in topics such as better communication, belonging and connection, art history, sociology, culture, and the preservation of our collective and individual humanity.
I have many causes that I care deeply about, such as women’s issues and intersectional feminism, human rights, and information about covid/public health, and media literacy. Books and Eastern Europe are also high on my list.
While I believe in staying aware, I rarely post about straight politics.
I’ve already connected with some thoughtful, insightful, caring, curious people – would love to meet more.
#Introduction #Empathy #Kindness #Communication #ArtHistory #Books #Sociology #Connection #CovidInformed #Curiosity #Belonging
because communication is like scrabble
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Should we migrate the communication platforms of our FOSS projects (e.g., Python, Django, …) to Matrix? 🗳️
The idea of avoiding the vendor lock-in is increasingly widespread 🔓
Migrate social networks to the Fediverse, self-host your blog, regain control of your Git repository, … 👏
I wonder if it's time to migrate to “an open network for secure, decentralized communication” 🪐
Answer here or share your experience 👇
#Matrix #VendorLockIn #Communication #Freedom
CC @matrix
Options: (choose one)
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System of Friendship 💗+📋 Words List - Friendships solve it all...
🚀 if you would like to see more of these things practised in life.
Thunderbird & 🔐 PGP Setup Tutorial
(I2Pmail Example)
Did you know I2P offers email!? 😀
you@mail.i2p & you@i2pmail.org
Let's set this up today. It'll be fun! 
Watch on #Peertube
*Post updated to instance offering vid space
#email #thunderbird #mozilla #I2P #mail #communication #infosec #cybersecurity #privacy #journalism #security #PGP #gpg #OpenPGP #FOSS #anonymity #anonymous #education #I2Pmail #postman
Edited 316d ago
Ahoy infosec.exchange!
After I've been lurking around here for quite a while, I think it's time for an #introduction.
My current Mastodon mode of operation is to randomly stick my head into this collaborative stream of consciousness from time to time, observe whatever floats by quietly and most likely leave without any interaction.
In general, I seek to understand the reality we live in and try to figure out how to improve it. This involves far too many details and unfortunately I tend to engage in all kinds of side quests instead of working on what matters the most.
I've not decided yet how much and what parts of myself I want to disclose around here. So, expect some more lurking. If I post something, it will probably revolve around #automation, #communication, #cybersecurity, #education, #it, #networks, #ot, #privacy or #python.
I got a LinkedIn prompt to write something about the benefits of programmers working remotely. I thought I'd take a different angle on this than most of the respondents did: Focusing on ways programmers can use their skills to communicate with remote colleagues better.
Prose or code, communicating clearly and specifically is key. As programmers, we have a special type of experience writing what we mean for one specific audience!
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Hey Mastadonians, I'm happy to join the #Fediverse as a #TwitterMigrant
By way of #introduction, I'm a #college #professor with a focus on #communication, #games and #sustainability.
I am concerned about #democracy across the globe, #IndigenousRights and how we avert a #ClimateCatastrophe.
I think #GamebasedLearning might be a way to think creatively about sustainability.
I also love #Timetravel, #AudioBooks and #DoctorWho
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I guess I should do an #introduction here too...
I'm an associate prof at the Department of #Communication and Journalism at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, where I research internet culture (very broadly). I'm currently mostly interested in technologies of disconnectivity in social media (#unfriending, #unfollowing, and the like).
I'm Vice Prez of #AoIR. My hobbies include #drumming and #running and watching #sports on TV, especially #arsenal
New Project for Community Conversations (see Audio Introduction)
💗 A System of Love 💗 Better #Communication & Interaction between people?... 💗📈🔁 Better than only Capitalism RIGHT?... 💰?
At this juncture in posting, I would like to make an announcement of interest mainly to myself. I have inadvertently begun a 'little' #writingproject. If it grows bigger, I may actually post some of it here (like I don't have enough to post already).
At this point in the exercise, I can confirm it concerns #ChildrensLiterature, #Fantasy, #SpeculativeFiction, #PerceptionofTime, #Communication, and #Etymology.
It will likely be a mix of #Prose and #ExperimentalPoetry. With some luck, well, actually a lot of luck, it may make sense, and might even reach a conclusion. Beyond those pieces of information, all is uncertainty.
BTW, Did I mention, #Dadaism and #Existential #Absurdism? Probably some of that's going to enter into the equation. #Writing #Narrative
Today I've been thinking about conversation customs, thanks to the teapot storm of "Paris' Olympics' opening ceremony".
It's well-known that anglo-americans are the worst actors in any international setting, as they've least experience on working with people from other cultures.
As such they're more likely to (1.) not context-proof their messages against other interpretations AND (2.) not checking if their interpretation of an event is the one intentended.
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Catch a glimpse of the finalists for the #DigitalPreservation #Awards 2024 and their super creative #digipres projects🤩
Today, the #DPC revealed the three #DPA2024 finalists in the Teaching and Communications category. It's all about Dungeons & Documents, Bits & Bots studygroups and Preserving Books for Future Generations on https://www.dpconline.org/events/digital-preservation-awards/the-finalists-award-for-teaching-and-communications
#DPA2024 #teaching #communication #finalists
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"The Real is accessed by language. The point of language is to keep language as an endlessly revisable process. Words don't have meanings -- they have histories, and they have futures, and they have memories."
--John Caputo
#FaveQuotes
#language
#linguistics
#words
#history
#communication
#reality
#philosophy
#ILoveLanguages
#ILoveWords
OK, I know this is silly. But last night I really wanted to talk to you about the aurora...
[NEW BLOG] #relationships #communication #ThisIsNotActuallyAboutTheAurora
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/aurora/